和爱情一样 友情也会一见钟情(双语)

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  Ask any random collection of strangers what they look for in a friend, and odds are you'll get pretty similar answers across the board: someone who's fun to be around. Someone who shares your sense of humor. Someone you can trust.


  But often, friendship begins long before any of those things can come to light in any meaningful way. According to one survey, around 60 percent of men and half of women believe in love at first sight; at least that many, I'd wager, have experienced that moment when you meet someone new and feel the friendship blooming in your gut — you just understand, instinctively, that a bond is about to form.


  Call it a spark, call it chemistry, call it friendship at first sight; whatever it is, it can happen in just a small handful of seconds, which is the amount of time we need to form a first impression of someone (if that — one study suggests that we make our judgments just a tenth of a second after seeing a face).


  In a study published in Nature in 2009, researchers identified two areas of the brain that become especially active when we meet someone new: the amygdala, the area of the brain that deals with emotion, and the posterior cingulate cortex, which is linked to autobiographical memory. As Karla Starr noted in Psychology Today, the posterior cingulate cortex also helps us weigh decisions and assign value to objects; we go through a very similar process with humans. "And after we've assigned a value to a person, we make the decision about how to orient ourselves to that person," she wrote. "Do we want to get closer? Knowing what this person's value is to us, do we want this person to be involved in our network?"

  在2009年发表在《自然》杂志上的一项调查中,研究人员发现,在我们遇到陌生人时,大脑中的两个区域变得异常活跃:杏仁体,即大脑中处理情感的区域,以及后扣带回,与自体的记忆有关。正如卡拉. 斯塔尔在杂志《今日心理学》中所指出的,后扣带回同样帮助我们权衡决策以及为对象分配价值,我们人类经历了一个非常类似的过程。“当我们为一个人分配了价值后,我们决定自己将如何与那个人相处,”她这样写道,“我们想要变得亲近吗?知道某个人的价值后,我们是否想让这个人加入我的社交圈呢?”

  The answer is actually a compilation of several smaller judgments, explains Kelly Campbell, a psychology professor at California State University, San Bernardino. "What are the things we care about in a friend? We care about someone who's going to be fun, that we can enjoy ourselves with … You need emotional support, social support, you want then to be loyal and trustworthy, you don't want to feel judged," she says. "When you first see the person, you don't realize how many judgments you're making, but you’re actually gathering information that's telling you if this person fills those needs for you."


  Last year, Campbell headed up a study in The Social Science Journal on "friendship chemistry," which she and her colleagues defined as "an instant connection between friends that is easy and makes the relationship seem natural." (Friendship chemistry, Campbell noted, is one subset of "interpersonal chemistry," which includes romantic relationships.) The phenomenon wasn't always mutual, they found, but it seemed to strike certain groups more than others: Those who scored higher on the personality traits of agreeableness, openness, and conscientiousness, for example, were more likely to say that they'd experienced friendship chemistry.




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